hmm... heard of a sad case of break up again... & tis story of breaking up reminds me of wat happen abt 2 yrs ago. story is the same ah... but in order not to remind anyone of the sad happening, i shall not elaborate the story.
"a relationship only involve 2 pple." usually pple can very "xiao sa" to say tat & y shld they care abt pple's views, as long as they r happy with each other, wat else can be bothering them. however, we cannot deny tat pple's words and views does matter. u can very happily say i dun care how pple look at our relationship & i dun need pple approval or watever. it is between me and my partner, wat does other pple know & y shld they care so much? however, when pple say such comments, do they really mean tat? can they really dun care & tink of pple's views and words? ans is usually they cannot. esp when tings such as break up happen.
in a break up, we often do not know wat is the real reason as we r not the couple involve. for some pple who sort of know the reasons, they may understand. but for some who dunno anything, their comments r the worst man! they can say anything they tink is rite, they can say anything tat they tink is true & they dun understand anything abt the whole issue but juz like give comments. cannot blame pple oso cos tis is human nature of being nosy and full of comments (i would not say tat i am a saint, cos i am such nosy person who like to comment too...) often all these ignorance comments by all these pple r very very hurting & painful. i once had a fren who is so hurt by all these comments tat his close frens said & felt so depressed ah. haiz... & i had seen quite a few cases. usually guys r the one kanna scoldings & criticism when a break up involve. y is tat so? pple usually show pity for gals but how abt the guys? at some situations, both r at fault. or some cases, the guy is innocent. in some cases guys r really the idiot one lah... but no matter wat is the reason, guys still have to be the poor ting one. life is unfair sia... juz becos gals seems the weak one, then guys muz be blame for watever happen. i am not siding the guys (i am a gal lor... i shld fight for gals ah...), juz tat i feel unfair for the guys.
when break up involve, something bound to goes wrong with both side. if not, how come will break up leh. so it is not entirely fault on the guy or the gal. a relationship need both of them to maintain. if it end up in a failure and result in break up, both muz be responsible. no such ting as pin point is the guy's fault or is the gal's fault. even if it is 1 party's fault, then wat is the reason for tis fault leh? was it becos neglience of both parties? was it becos it was a wrong start at the beginning? was it becos there is no communication in both parties or was it becos there is no initative from both sides?
haiz... having relationship is nv an easy job lor... need so much maintainance and time & effort (seems familiar words ah... heehee... copy from my previous few entry abt frenship). if u r willing to give in time & effort, then u can start a relationship. if not, dun start one & then regret or wat. but still love is unpredictable. anyting could happen anytime & anywhere no matter how stable tings go... so i would tink is better to treasure wat u have now & be contented and learn to enjoy it. dun ever regret when u lose it ah...
*3 more days to the BIG day!
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