the art of give and take...

as per the title:
give... meaning to give in to other people's requests and preferences. take... taking wat had been given or offered to u according to ur preferences and requests. i always always believe tat the art of give and take is very important in maintaining human relationship. be it kinship, frenship, boy-girl relationship. cos in all cases we r facing human and human beings r complex and unpredictable by nature.

in many instances, human beings always have all kind of requests and preferences whereby they will expect others to understand and give in to. however, in other instances, they forget wat is known as respect and understanding. the reason behind the art of give and take is very simple... "give the same treatment to someone in the way tat u would like to be treated" always be polite, understanding and respectful. if u wanna pple to give in to u, u muz 1st learn to give in to pple. by doing tat, u will then have the rights to take in pple's kindness to u. in this world, nutting is always one-sided. yesterday and today, u may be the one who always get wat u wanna. tomolo and future, u may not get all tat anymore. when u take in, u muz learn to give in too.

when we r dealing with human relationship, always rem tat appreciative and understanding r very impt. u learn to appreciate wat others have done for u or offered to u as well as look from other pple's perspective to spare a tot for others. human beings have their emotional and soft sides. therefore when they feel tat u r being appreciative and understanding (the giving in component), they r more than willing to give in to u in future (the taking in component). juz rem one cannot be a selfish individual. cos at the end of the day, u may have all ur preferences and requests but ask urself from the bottom of ur heart, do u enjoy all these so-called achievements? and do u tink pple will continue to give in to u willingly? well, there mayb some instances when lucky individuals encounter some kind souls who r ever willing to give in without much grumbles. but how many of us can be such lucky individuals leh? & how many of us really wanna become tat selfish individual who would only tink of ownself?

therefore, in my opinion, to maintain a relationship with ur family, frens and loved ones in the long run, understanding and practising the art of give and take is very impt... before u complain tat other pple r not making effort to maintain the relationship, u ask urself in the 1st place if u r taking in too much and if u had been contributing enough in the maintanence of this relationship. before u question others, do post the question on urself. often u will realise u r the answer to most of ur queries. :D